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When your child becomes angry and turns to violence towards you or other family members the most important thing is your and others safety.

How you respond is dependent on past experiences. Can your child be talked to and calmed down. Do you try and restrain them, or leave the home and call the police.

Important messages:

Safety is the most important thing when a situation becomes violent.

Do not enter into an argument or discussion. Do not raise your voice or yell. If your child wants to leave the home let them leave and contact them later when they may be calmer.

Call the police if appropriate. In an emergency dial 999 or dial 101 if the situation has subsided. The call will be logged and the police will visit.

Keep calm, leave and go for a walk if possible. Call a friend or a family member who may be able to help.

Do not discuss the situation until your child is calm.

When discussing the situation let your child know that;
When they are violent you will remove yourself from them
What they are doing is dangerous and unacceptable
What consequences there will be for their behaviour

Do not get dragged into an argument over why or who was to blame for the incident.

They must be made aware that violence is not acceptable.

Calling the police is a very big step to take, but doing nothing will give the message that the behaviour is acceptable.

If you have close family that can take in your child for a short period, so that both of you have time to think about your relationship and the chance to put consequences in place.

Imposing consequences in anger may be unrealistic and you may not be able to follow through, which will only worsen the cycle of abuse.

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